6sixofswords6 (6sixofswords6) wrote in tirysgithr,

What happens at war stays at war

I am cross posting this to the Kingdom of Atenveldt community.

This summer past, something happened at war that didn't stay there. My love came back to me saying those words, "What happens at war stays at war." Shortly after, we parted ways for good. Now, I have nothing against open relationships, polyamory, bi or gay, or what have you. There is nothing wrong with having a good time at war. But, if you make a promise to someone who is giving you their heart shouldn't that promise be kept?

I am writing to ask a favor of you. I would never presume to tell anyone what to do, but with The Estrella War looming please consider this.

If you are unhappy in your relationship let your partner now.
At least give him a chance to fix the problem if it is fixable. If not, break things off honorably.

Don't get on an airplane saying you're crazy about him and then go sleep with someone else.

I am still reeling from what happened six months ago. I never realized how much an act of violence infidelity is until it happened to me. There is a good chance I will see this girl whom I still have feelings for at Estrella in the company the guy she cheated on me with, and it will take everything I have not to do something really stupid.

I hope if you are leaning this way you will consider what I have written and possibly spare your partner some of what I have gone through.

Thanks for reading this.

Amendment 02-06-2007: Someone close to my ex e-mailed me to say she didn't actually cheat on me. If I came to the wrong conclusion, I apologize. I have certainly been kept in the dark about what happened and lied to about it. To me its no surprise and no less hurtful. Everything else I have said is directly from my own experience.
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I know how you feel I've been cheated on for years only to be told one thing and then kicked to the curb for not trusting the man who I thought I loved. Infidelity is definitely a kick in the teeth and divorce is just like a death in the family. Until you mourn and move on it is a reminder that you failed at something. Some of us will never know at what since all we have ever been told is were were perfect and it wasn't us it was them. WTF. Keep your chin up and don't let them see you hurt. It gives them power over you.